Dear SpaceManAndy, I got out of a 6 year relationship about 8 months ago and have been enjoying getting back into the dating field. My problem is that one of the gentlemen I am seeing has been seeming like he’d like to get more serious than I am ready for. We haven’t discussed exclusivity and should it come up I will of course let him know that it’s not something I’m ready for yet. My question … Read entire article »

Dear SpaceManAndy, I have a new guy in my life and he’s all about ass play, but I never really have been into it before. He tried the back door with me once, but it hurt too much and I told him to stop. I know a lot of people really enjoy it, and I’m ready to take the plunge. What do I need to know? How do I make it hurt less? What if some … Read entire article »

Dear SpaceMan, We are Joe and Rob, are a young couple looking to get a place together. Rob already has a roommate, we’ll call him Drew. Drew and Joe get along famously. We would have a lot more flexibility in the type of housing and our price range if we consider having Drew go in on the next house with us. Our reasons for wanting to live together are as much about being practical (location, optimizing … Read entire article »

Nobody wrote in about this, but I feel like it needs to be said. All over the internet, I see “I hate Valentine’s day!” “It’s a hallmark holiday” “It’s a day designed to make money” “I can’t afford to do Valentine’s Day” “It’s sexist and all about men spending money on women” Good lord, people! You’d think with this wild down-with-the-man independent streak, the battle cry should be “Don’t tell me how to celebrate my love” … Read entire article »

Dear SpaceManAndy, My dog loves my girlfriend. He like me, but he loves my girlfriend. We only got him a few weeks ago, but it’s clear who he prefers. I mean, she is better at training dogs than I am, so she has been training him, so he gets treats from her a lot, so that’s part of it. The other part is that every day since we got him, I’ve had to bring work home … Read entire article »

Dear SpaceManAndy So, I work in an “open office” where none of us have our own offices, we’re all in open cubes. There are a few coworkers that are unprofessional and loud in the office throughout the day (personal phone calls, loud discussions with each other about NSFW things, etc.). How should I deal with this? I already wear headphones about 80% of the time in the office, but that is acting more as a band-aid … Read entire article »

Dear SpaceManAndy, I am a woman from good eastern european stock. Dark hair, dark eyes, the whole nine yards. And I’ve never thought of myself as particularly hairy, just dark haired. It’s all pretty soft and lovely. Anyway, here’s the thing – when I was in middle school a couple a**hole friends of mine (guys of course) used to tease me – about a lot of things (my lips were too small for my face, my forehead … Read entire article »